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How to Prepare Now for Christmas (Without Going Into Debt)
Look, I know it’s only September… but if you’re anything like me, Christmas always sneaks up faster than expected. And with it comes the pressure: presents, food, decorations, school holidays… and the swipe of the card that can leave you stressed and paying it off well into the new year or cringing when you see those After Pay payment reminders.
This year, let’s do things differently. By starting now, you can enjoy the holidays without the debt hangover.
I thought I didn’t need a will… until I realised I really did
This month is Wills Month, give yourself (and your kids) the gift of certainty. It doesn’t matter if you’ve got $5 or $50,000 in the bank, your wishes matter, and putting them down on paper protects the people you love most.
Research Confirms an Emergency Fund Is the Strongest Predictor of Financial Well-Being
A 2025 Vanguard study in the U.S. found that emergency savings are the single strongest predictor of financial well-being. Just having $2,000 tucked away was linked to a 21% increase in financial well-being. Women with that buffer reported less stress, spent fewer hours worrying about money, and were less distracted at work.
Fed is Best: Small Ways to Make Your Grocery Budget Stretch
The following are some tips that might help. This isn’t a “buy a cow and churn your own butter” kind of list. These are small, realistic things you can do right now to make your budget stretch without adding to your stress.
Government benefits: Are you getting everything you’re entitled to?
It’s hard not to feel frustrated when you meet someone in a similar situation who seems to have had more support — or didn’t have to pay back the same things you did. You wonder what you missed. What box you didn’t tick. What piece of information you never got.
And that’s part of the problem. When you’re already overwhelmed, trying to process trauma, and keep a roof over your head — you shouldn’t have to be a policy expert just to survive.
Why pets are a major reason women stay in abusive relationships
Aotearoa has one of the highest rates of family violence in the developed world and we’re also a country full of pet lovers. So it’s no surprise that our furry companions play a significant role in the decisions women make about whether and when to leave an abusive relationship.
Recent data shows that 53% of women in abusive relationships delayed leaving out of fear for their pet’s safety, and 73% said they would have found it easier to leave if there were safe accommodation options for their pets.
How to Use An Emergency Fund Tracker
If you’ve just downloaded the She’s Worth It Emergency Fund Tracker - yay! You’ve taken the first step toward building your financial safety net.
Now, if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably downloaded dozens of free templates over the years... and never opened half of them again. So let’s make this one different. This blog will walk you through exactly how to use your tracker, and how to keep the momentum going even when money is tight or motivation dips.
Term Deposits vs High-Interest Savings Accounts: Which Is Better for Your Emergency Fund?
With Sorted’s Money Month coming up, I was chatting with a few of my colleagues about the Emergency Fund Challenge I’m running through She’s Worth It. It led to a great conversation:
“Where should you actually keep your emergency fund?”
I said straight away: “A high-interest savings account (HISA), hands down.”
One colleague said she just uses the savings account attached to her regular bank account. Another said she’s been using term deposits.
Where You Keep Your Emergency Fund Matters (Here's What I Do)
Your emergency fund is there for you when everything else falls apart. Keeping it in a high-interest savings account isn’t just financially smart—it’s an act of self-respect.
If you’re just starting to build one, start small. $5 a week. $20 a month. Whatever you can do. Over time, it adds up. And when life happens (because it always does), you’ll be so glad you did.
Kiwisaver for Kids
With new changes to KiwiSaver rules in July 2025, it’s easier than ever for parents and teens to set themselves up for the future. So let’s talk about what’s new, why it matters, and how you can get started, no matter your budget.
The $10,000 Price Tag of Leaving Abuse
If you've lived it, you don’t need a research paper to tell you that leaving an abusive relationship is hard, especially when money is tight, or gone altogether. But sometimes, seeing the numbers laid out helps validate our experience. It shows we’re not imagining it. That it’s not just “bad luck” or “poor decisions.” It’s a system that fails women over and over again.
The latest Good Shepherd NZ report, Barriers to Exit: How financial barriers prevent women from leaving abusive relationships, is one of the clearest, most compassionate breakdowns I’ve read lately about why so many women stay. And why so many of us walk away not just traumatised, but broke.
Contactless payments: What’s the Real Cost of That Tap Fee?
New Zealanders have fully embraced contactless payments — about 70% use contactless as their preferred method for everyday purchases, up from 36% between 2019–2020. But convenience often comes with a hidden cost: retailers commonly add 2–2.5% surcharges to cover their processing fees.
How I Built a Work Wardrobe Without Breaking the Budget
I wouldn’t call myself a fashionista.
But I do like to feel smart — especially when I’m in professional settings.
And I’ve found a way to do that without blowing the budget.
Sinking Funds 101: The Budgeting Tool That Genuinely Changed My Life
If you’re rebuilding your finances, starting over, or just trying to get out of survival mode — please start here.
Sinking funds are simple. But they’re powerful.
How to Let Go of Financial Anxiety (Without Pretending It’s Just About Budgeting)
If you’re stressed about money, you’re not alone.
And no, it’s not just “because you need a budget” or “should meditate more.”
For a lot of us, especially after financial trauma or divorce, money anxiety runs deep. It’s not just about the numbers, it’s about feeling unsafe, unsupported, and out of control.
How to Recover Financially After Divorce (Even If You're Starting From Zero)
Divorce doesn’t just split up a relationship. It can split up your finances, your stability, and your sense of self.
If you’ve experienced financial abuse, been out of the workforce, or suddenly found yourself parenting solo with no backup plan, the money side of divorce can feel like an impossible mountain to climb.
The Truth About Afterpay: Why It’s Not Always a Bad Thing
When you’re on a low income, recovering from financial abuse, or starting over with zero savings, you don’t always have the luxury of paying for essentials upfront.
Why So Many Women in Their 40s and Early 50s Feel Like They’re Sinking Financially: And How You Can Take Back Control
If you’re a woman in your 40s or early 50s feeling like you're barely keeping your head above water, you’re not imagining it — the struggle is real, and you’re far from alone.
The First Time I Calculated My Net Worth, I Cried. Here’s Why I Keep Doing It Anyway
I remember the first time I ever calculated my net worth.
I was sitting at my coffee table, surrounded by scribbled budget notes, half-drunk tea, and a growing sense of dread. I had been back in Aotearoa for 10 months, arriving with just my toddler and a suitcase. No car. No money. No plan. Just survival mode.